Summer is a time of endless fun and freedom for your kids, but can sometimes mean more frustration and stress for couples going through a separation or divorce.
Parents will face a myriad of new challenges such as agreeing on how to divide parenting time, deciding on schools-out child custody arrangements, divvying up the bill for summer camps, and learning how to successfully co-parent to eliminate the tension and stress that goes in hand with a divorce.
Children of divorcees will also be navigating a challenging time and learning how to cope with their parents’ separation and their newly divided schedules. They will undergo a series of new emotions: anxiety from the divorce and fear of not spending enough time with the non-custodial parent. They may experience sadness because they miss the other parent’s constant presence, or feel resentment. If a new potential step-parent is introduced into the equation, the child will need to learn to adapt, which can be scary.
Balancing time with your kids over summer break can be challenging with the boundless activities that arise during the season.
Here are several tips to make summer co-parenting a breeze:
Be flexible: Summer is a busy time for both parent and child, especially in a single parent household. If last minute arrangements need to be made, or the co-parent wants to take your child out of the country to travel, try to work out an agreement with them. Have rational conversations about the fears and concerns present. Successful coparenting involves heavy compromising and sometimes deviating from the agreed upon custody schedule.
Put the children’s best interest first: Seek their input for summer activities and whom they want to spend their time with. Last minute sleepovers or events might come up and could cut into your scheduled custody and quality time with them. Everyone will have a little less time with each other after a divorce. Do not let your child resent you for controlling all their time without consulting them.
Discuss summer expenses: The expenses could be shared equally by both parties, or it could be decided that a child support agreement covers it. Be realistic. If one parent is footing most of the day-to-day childcare expenses, then it is fair for the co-parent to incur more of the summer costs.
Notify the child’s other parent about vacations: This eliminates last minute scheduling and allows both parents and their children to have the stress-free time off they deserve.
If you are looking for an advocate to give you the best solution for child custody agreements in New Jersey, contact us. Let our child support and custody lawyers help keep you and your children’s summers memorable. Call (856) 988-5470 now to schedule a consultation.